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Here’s some Gaiman & de Lespinasse quotes for all of you guys. Sugar Overload y’all!!

Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life.You give them a piece of you. They didn’t ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn’t your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like ‘maybe we should be just friends’ turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It’s a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.

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I’ve been making a list of the things they don’t teach you at school. They don’t teach you how to love somebody. They don’t teach you how to be famous. They don’t teach you how to be rich or how to be poor. They don’t teach you how to walk away from someone you don’t love any longer. They don’t teach you how to know what’s going on in someone else’s mind. They don’t teach you what to say to someone who’s dying. They don’t teach you anything worth knowing.

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Sometimes you wake up. Sometimes the fall kills you. And sometimes, when you fall, you fly.

Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you I have no control over.

If I never met you, I wouldn’t like you. If I didn’t like you, I wouldn’t love you. If I didn’t love you, I wouldn’t miss you. But I did, I do, and I will.

You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.

Love me when I least deserve it, because that’s when I really need it.

This month marks my second year here in US. Two years..has it been that long? Since i got married 8 years ago, my life  has always  been of constant moving, packing, unpacking, settling in, adjusting..every 2 years. Having Lived & made friends in 4 different cities in that span of time, not including having to learn, speak, understand & digest, a new dialect is tough. I thought i was already so good at it. Change, that is.

And the last move was the most difficult. Leaving friends to be with the one you love, leaving your parents &  own comfort zone to make & etch a life of your own, leaving the one place you so dearly love, to discover & unravel a new one. That is tough. And that has been my life for the past 8 years. For now Chicago is the Rest Stop.

Moving here i believe made me become a better, stronger person not only in my dealings with other people but also how it shaped my convictions ..in life, love & reality. And my reality for now is this: Change is the only permanent thing. Nothing stays the same. This is so true. For me.

It seems like everyone around me is moving on with their respective lives &  in a very good way at that.  My friend K, is a student again. P, is starting a new life Land down Under. C0-Worker  M, has been juggling 3 facilities for now( i’m dying to work with her again).  J, is planning to move to AZ . L,will transfer to L& D come next schedule & D, my buddy will be part of Chicago Fire Dept soon, achieving his lifelong dream. I’m so happy for all of them, but leaves me sad & empty at the same time.

And what’s in store for me? I asked myself. And the answer is "I don’t Know". All i know is that i’m gonna miss those people who will leave & am missing the ones who have left.  That I will treasure each & every moment with the ones who stayed. And, that i will forever be grateful for the borrowed time we all once had. And i believe that Time has it’s own way of reconnecting with  the people you love & cherish the most.( soon..see you later..we all say)

I have  always told my good friend K that Change is always good, ( having had her share of drastic lifechanging events as well ) to always welcome it & embrace it. but..is it really?

For NOW, i just want to sit still, watch the world go by. Breathe.To hold onto the people, places, things that make me happy.  To be still.Gather strength. Be happy for others. To Avoid the race we call LIFE. For Now.

But even if i  sit still, Life gets in the way & starts making plan for other people. Now tell me. When can we have parallel universe?

Really, i thought i thrive on impermanence. I really thought i was so good at it. 

it still hurts. everytime.